Why in the world do you need my help?
You might not. It's not for everyone. Some people will take the
free articles I've written, my book, Powerful
Body, Peaceful Mind, my Teleseminars, and the mp3 downloads
and go on to achieve independent wellness success.
Some people don't like asking questions, don't want help, or
feel too vulnerable admitting they need help. That's fine. I understand
that. It's not good, but I understand it.
Some of you know you need help, and you care more about improving
your life you're your pride.
- Could you use some encouragement and guidance?
- Someone to answer your questions?
- Someone to help you find the right questions?
- Do you want to make sure you don't just trail off, peter out,
and give up?
- Do you feel overwhelmed when you think about getting started?
- Have you made some progress but now are totally stuck?
I can help. I provide these services as
- Personalized Body-Mind-Emotion Assessment
- Personalized Food Recommendations for healing and balance
- Personalized Help with giving yourself Acupressure
- Personalized Answers and Suggestions for Herbal Healing
- Personalized Exercise and Lifestyle Advice and Feedback
Did Someone Say 'Personalized'?
Personalization is fundamental to Chinese medicine's assessments
and suggestions. That's the way all advice and medicine should
be! You are unique, and your answers should be, too. Duh!
Who Needs Coaching and Mentorship?
As I'll demonstrate below, people at all stages need coaching
You Need Positive Influences
It's important to understand that most of us are more easily
influenced than we like to admit. Peer pressure. You know all
about it. Tell me you haven't eaten the wrong things, shirked
on sleep, overworked, or laid around all day just because the
other person you were with was doing that, too.
Stop the Sickness
And what if everyone in your life is unhealthy? How can you carve
out an island of sanity and create a barrier from the sickness?
You can't do it alone. Just call me Mr. Positive. But don't get
the wrong idea - I call it like it is. If you or other people
in your life are screwing up, I'm not going to candy coat it.
Just call me the Dr. Phil of alternative medicine.
Get out of Bed
What if you live alone, and you can't get out of bed or off the
couch? One self-employed man I worked with was trying to get his
business of the ground. He felt good and was very constructive
after I talked to him on the phone. It just took a little confrontation
and encouragement from me. But the next day, he'd be in the same
spot. I told him, "I'm going to call you every day for a
week, just to make sure you're out of bed and making progress."
Our talks made a difference for him, and he was able to get some
forward momentum going that didn't end when he went to bed.
But not everyone needs such basic help.
Deep, Positive Improvements
Some people have some their "life stuff" in order,
but need help making it to the next level. For example, another
client of mine had a great job and plenty of money, but drank
too much and had a manipulative live-in girlfriend. It took several
hours a few times a week for several months to not only get him
to see the personal and spiritual roots of his problems, but to
help him make a fulfilling change.
I'm a firm believer that in the same way that nature abhors a
vacuum, it's impossible to just stop doing the wrong things without
substituting the right things. It wouldn't have been enough for
him to stop drinking and start watching TV. He needed to stop
drinking, re-examine his whole life history, get involved with
more positive people, and begin a meaningful spiritual walk.
It was about six months before it became clear that his girlfriend
was trying to undermine his progress. In fact, she went batty
when he got more positive. This isn't uncommon - when people aren't
well, they choose unwell people. When one person gets well, the
other person tries to drag them back down. It was making him miserable
and it only got worse. I can't tell you how many hours of coaching
it took to help him see that it was better for both of them to
separate. In fact, months later the ex-girlfriend had made positive
changes in her life as well. Your growth can help others and plant
seeds for some future harvest.
Plateaus and Complacency
Some of you are bona fide personal growth successes. You've made
amazing changes in your life. Congratulations! You have the trappings
of success. People look up to you. You're one of the 'well ones'.
But you're not out of danger. We never are. We are in danger
of complacency, also known as sloth. When it seems easy to amaze
and please others, we stop giving our best. We relax too much.
What's worse, if you're the healthiest, sanest person you know,
chances are you aren't sharing your insides with anyone. Who's
going to see when you veer in the wrong direction? Who's going
to tell you they don't believe your hype? Who's going to see through
even your own lies to yourself?
This is a particular problem for authors, teachers, and coaches.
Guilty! But I have several mentors I discuss things with, and
when things are weird or going wrong, they give me perspective.
Usually, I don't need much- just a hint, and I can figure it out.
And sometimes it's just the process of saying it to someone who
I know is listening and understands - I can hear myself better
and get to the truth. And every new area I've gotten into, whether
spirituality, service, Chinese medicine, public speaking, writing,
Christianity, or medical science, I've been able to find a mentor
who helps me and enjoys our interactions as much as I do.
So we're never too well to have a mentor. In fact, those who
think they're beyond this kind of thing invariably are stuck in
fear or pride, and there they remain, fooling themselves and almost
no one else.
Coach, Mentor, Helper, Life Consultant, Whatevah
I don't like any of those words. Coach? No, we're not going out
to play baseball. Mentor? No, we won't be hanging out in the library.
Helper? No. Life Consultant? Give me a break!
Anyway, it doesn't matter what you call me- call me Brian. You're
the focus of the relationship, not me.
How much does it cost?
As with any purchase, you must consider both your return on investment
and your cash flow. And what it's going to cost depends on what
you need. And I have no idea what you need yet. So, I have a handy
for you to use. After I've reviewed your responses, we schedule
a 30-minute consult so I can get acquainted with you, ask questions,
and discover your goals. I let that sink in, then create a Plan
of Action with which we can proceed. I charge $20 to assess the
Assessment, $40 for the Phone Consult, and $40 for the Plan. These
three must all be paid before I'll consider your Assessment.
Why do I charge for the Wellness Assessment?
For two reasons: First, I have to charge for my time so that
I can keep providing everyone with all this help, and number two,
I only have so much time, so I want to be sure I'm dealing with
people who are serious. If you can afford this kind of personal
help, it should be no problem.
What's in the plan?
Based on your situation, needs, and goals, I'll tell you which
of my services will help you, what other
resources you might need to use, and give you a plan for how and
in what order to do it all.
- If, for example, you really need acupuncture, I'll help you
find the best acupuncturist for you in your area.
- If you need group support, I can help you find that in your
area as well.
- If there are books you need to read and digest and integrate
into your life, I can identify which ones.
- (This is in addition to the services I
Return on Investment and Cash Flow - Giving to Get
Sometimes people like the guy who couldn't get out of bed appear
to be stymied by cash flow issues. "I can't afford to get
help right now because I'm not working enough," goes the
reasoning. However, Mr. Stuck wasn't going to be working more
until he got my help. Thank goodness for credit cards! Sometimes
we have to make an investment in ourselves so that we will be
more valuable to ourselves in the future.
I can't help everyone. I wish I could.
If you have serious emotional or mental difficulties, you may
need professional psychiatric help, and I'd urge you to get it.
If you cannot afford my personalized help, believe me, I feel
for you. I'm the kind of person who has had to learn to charge
for my services, because my inclination really is to give everything
away for free. Witness the hundreds of free articles I provide
But getting married and getting a mortgage has helped me apprehend
that we must put our oxygen masks on first, and that only by earning
money can I put money into the kinds of free services that will
eventually help you. So, I suggest you continue to read the Pulse,
the free email newsletter, and watch for more free quizzes and
tools. And in the meantime, do whatever baby steps you can to
move forward. My prayers are with you!
For Those Of You Who'd Like to Go Ahead
- Fill out the Wellness Assessment form, and send it in.
- Then TO PAY: Click on the payment button
and follow PayPal's instructions
I look forward
to meeting you and working with you!